A big part of getting a girl to like you is to know what to avoid doing that might turn her off. And some mistakes to avoid making if you want a girl to like you
Here are some classic mistakes to avoid…
1. Don’t pretend to be her friend if you want to be her boyfriend
A common mistake that guys make is to assume that the only way they can get the girl they like is to be nice and friendly to her.
A guy like this hopes that by being a good friend to her, listening to all her problems, gossiping with her on the phone or via text and generally being there at her every beck and call, she will one day realize that she likes him and wants to be his girlfriend.
Yet, what he usually doesn’t realize is this: A girl liking a guy as a friend is not the same as her feeling sexually attracted to him and wanting to be his girlfriend.
If you want to get a girl to like you in a sexual and romantic way, you have to focus on sparking her feelings of sexual attraction rather than her feelings of friendship.
For example: Make her feel girly and feminine in comparison to your masculinity (i.e. how you think, feel, behave, talk, move) when you interact with her.
If you don’t trigger her feelings of sexual attraction, she might like you as a friend and enjoy hanging around you, but she’s not going to want anything more than that.
When another guy comes along who can spark her feelings of sexual attraction, she will be going out on dates and having sex with him, while she calls you on the phone to tell you all about it because you’re such a good friend to her and she can always count on you to gossip and discuss love and relationships with her.
She could have actually been your girlfriend, but you were too busy pretending to just want to be her friend.
If you want a girl to like you in a sexual way, you must focus on triggering her feelings of sexual attraction. Only when you have done that should you then focus on showing her how good of a guy you are.
If you make the classic mistake of trying to show her how nice of a guy you are by being a friend to her, a girl will almost always only have friendly feelings for you and won’t be interested in anything sexual.
2. Don’t put her on a pedestal
Sometimes, a guy will feel as though the girl he likes is simply too good for him.
Although he secretly wishes that he knew what to do to make her like him, deep down he actually doesn’t believe that he’s worthy of her, so he puts her on a pedestal and worships her from afar.
For a girl to feel attracted to a guy, she has to be able to feel respect for him as a man by being able to look up to him as someone who is more confident and emotionally strong than she is.
So, when a guy puts a girl above himself in terms of value, she loses respect for him and then finds it nearly impossible to feel enough attraction for him to give him a chance to be with her.
A girl wants to feel feminine and soft in contrast to a man’s emotional toughness and masculine vibe.
She doesn’t want to feel as though she needs to be gentle with a guy because he lacks belief in himself and is emotionally sensitive like a girl.
To get a girl to like you and respect you as a guy, you have to believe that you are good enough for you.
When you truly believe that, she will notice it and feel attracted to you because of it.
She will then feel lucky to be getting a chance with a sexy guy like you who is 100% confidence in himself around girls.
3. Don’t tell her that you like her before she is fully attracted to you
If a guy hasn’t said or done anything to make a girl feel sexually attracted to him and he then tells that he likes her, she’s not going to feel very excited to hear it.
She’s going to be thinking, “That’s sweet, but I’m not interested in him in that way,” or “He’s nice, but he’s really not my type.”
If you want a girl to feel excited about the fact that you like her, you have to make sure that you make her feel a lot of attraction for you first.
It’s easy for you to feel attracted to her because a guy’s attraction for a girl is mostly about how she looks.
He then starts to focus on other positive qualities about her and says that she is special, unique and maybe even “the one.”
However, a guy’s attraction for a girl is instant based on her looks.
Almost all guys will feel more than enough attraction for a girl’s looks to instantly decide, “Yes” or “No” to the idea of having sex with her.
Yet, girls don’t work the same way.
Girls need to be warmed up to the idea of having sex with a guy by interacting with him and assessing whether or not he has the attractive traits that girls look for in a guy (e.g. confidence, emotional masculinity, charisma, charm, etc).
When you spark a girl’s sexual feelings for you (not just her friendly feelings) she will be happy to hear that you like her because she’ll be feeling the same way about you.
4. Don’t lose hope when she tests you
Girls like to test a guy’s confidence.
Testing is a girl’s way of separating the real men from the insecure boys, so to speak.
So, here’s what you need to do…
Assume (without a doubt) that the girl you like is going to test you, so you don’t lose your cool when it happens.
For example: If a guy approaches a girl that he likes, and she might give him a cold look and act aloof and unfriendly.
This is her instinctive, natural way of trying to find herself a confident guy, rather than giving an insecure guy a chance with her.
Another example is where a girl will smile and be friendly towards a guy during the first couple of minutes of conversation, but will then change her approach and start to tease him or pick on him to see how he reacts.
A guy who understands girls will realize that she is testing him, so she will remain confident and relaxed, rather than feel like he is losing his chance with her.
On the other hand, an insecure guy will take her change in behavior as a sign that she really doesn’t like him. He will go away with his tail between his legs feeling rejection and left out.