As a guy, what do you do when you find yourself falling for a girl?
If you’re just like most guys, you’d pursue her.
And then, you’d woo her.
And a few days or a couple of weeks later, you’d tell her that you love her.
As a girl, I can tell you that this is definitely flattering.
And she may even like you back too.
But almost always, this never works.
[Read: 10 reasons why saying ‘I love you’ too soon sucks!]
How to make a girl fall in love with you
Most guys wrongly assume that girls love getting the attention of guys *just for fun*.
They assume a girl would stare back, flirt, get closer, and in one swift move, just back away all of a sudden and pretend like nothing ever happened.
Have you ever experienced this?
Have you ever got really close to a girl, only to be thrown to the floor a few weeks later because she either starts ignoring you or tells you she never did really *see you as anything more than a friend*?
[Read: 10 perfect ways to avoid the friend zone with a girl you like]
You may have felt led on until she slammed the door on you, and now, you think this is a girl thing where they just use guys and walk all over them.
But really, if you’ve experienced it, you’re reading your experience all wrong!
What you experienced wasn’t a girl thing. It’s a human thing!
All of us as humans behave the same way. [Read: 15 reasons why nice guys lose the girl and finish last all the time!]
When we get something too easily without really working for it, we never appreciate it. If we don’t desire something and get it all of a sudden, we never really care too much for it. And that holds good for material things, and for matters of the heart too.
The art of taking things slow while pursuing a girl
When it comes to pursuing a girl, always take things slow. Pursue her, but at the same time, make her work for your affection too. It’s great to follow your instincts in life, but when it comes to falling in love, your inexperienced instincts will always lead you straight into the middle of the firing zone.
When you fall in love with a girl, you’d just want to know what’s on her mind and whether she likes you back too. But unless you make her want you and desire you first, she can’t really value you or even realize how great a guy you are, don’t you think?
Take time, play it safe and easy, and help her see how awesome you are. And even before you know it, when you finally pop the question, she’d have the answer that you’re just waiting to hear. [Read: How to make a girl like you without even asking her out!]
What girls want in a great guy
Just like you want to date a great girl, the girl you like would want to date a great guy too! So if you want to woo a girl who’s all that, you need to turn yourself into a guy who’s awed by all other guys and desired by every girl.
First impressions play a big part in making a girl like you instantly. But even if you weren’t able to impress her at first sight, fret not, because there are always second chances *although you may have to work just a little bit harder!* [Read: 15 things girls look for in a great guy to fall for him]
The two scenarios while making her fall in love
When you start to fall for a girl, and you still haven’t told her that you love her, there are just two scenarios you could experience. She may like you back, or well, she may not like you back just yet.
But on the other hand, if she doesn’t even know you exist or if both of you aren’t friendly yet, make sure you get her to notice you first. [Read: 8 flattering ways to get a girl to notice you and think you’re a great guy!]
Scenario #1 She likes you too
If you’re talking to her already, and you’re getting all the great vibes from her, you’re well on your way to impressing her. Just remember to avoid being hasty, flirt with her and have a good time with her, but use the tips I’ve mentioned below to make her work for your attention so she can fall for you even before you ask her out. [Read: 12 easy signs to spot and find out if a girl likes you a lot already!]
Scenario #2 She doesn’t like you yet
So how can you tell if a girl doesn’t like you or doesn’t see you as a dating potential yet? It’s simple really. Notice how she behaves around you.
Does she laugh or smile more often around you than she does with other guys? Does she text you or call you now and then for no reason at all? Or does she bump into you at the cafeteria and talks to you for a while even if her friends are around or waiting for her? If she isn’t doing any of this already and she’s not really a shy girl, she probably hasn’t fallen for you yet. Take it slow, and use these tips on how to win a girl’s heart effortlessly in no time. [Read: How to woo a girl who doesn’t like you already and win her over in no time!]
18 foolproof ways to make a girl fall in love with you
If you want to make a girl fall in love with you, play it cool. And as much as you want to go all out with your guns blazing because that’s what your heart tells you to do, avoid it!
Play the game with your mind instead, and take calculated risks with each new step, especially if the girl you love doesn’t like you just yet.
Use these 18 ways on how to make a girl fall in love with you, and as long as avoid a reckless streak, you should be well on your way to winning her heart and making her fall for you in no time! [Read: 25 things about a guy that are a huge turn on for girls!]
#1 Don’t rush it. Take your time and play it cool. Never ever make your intentions too clear to the girl you like, and don’t be overeager to pour your feelings.
#2 Just the right amount of attention. Don’t drop all your commitments and give her all your attention all the time. That’s the easiest way to make a girl get bored of you really soon. An older woman may appreciate a man who’s dropping his priorities to make time for her, but when a girl is younger, she’d just lose your value or assume you’re a boring guy with all the time in the world to spare. [Read: How to make a girl smile, laugh and like you instantly]
#3 Love yourself. This is very important. Do you truly love yourself? If you don’t think you’re awesome, how can you convince the world and all the beautiful girls in it that you’re an awesome guy? Fall in love with yourself and respect yourself, and the world will see you the same way too! [Read: How to love yourself and become a much better guy!]
#4 Let her see that you have a life. Keep yourself busy and involve yourself in different activities. Go on out there and enjoy the world, be it by trekking over the weekend, joining a few fun clubs or even doing something new with your friends. The more interesting you and your conversations are, the more awed by you she’ll be. [Read: How to talk to a girl and look really smooth doing it]
#5 Look great. Looks aren’t every girl’s biggest priority, but it’ll definitely be a perk if you can look really fit and healthy. Work out, look healthy, dress well, and smell great. You’ll make a much better first impression with every girl you meet.
#6 Believe in yourself. It’s not easy to believe in yourself when you think you’re a nobody. But just because you’re failing with women or unable to impress a girl, that’s no reason to call yourself a failure. Start believing in yourself and your capabilities, and enjoy the world.
#7 Don’t reveal your insecurity. Never reveal your jealous streak to the girl you like, especially if she’s getting a lot of attention from other guys who are trying to woo her at the same time. If she sees you as an insecure and jealous guy, she’ll just think you’re a creepy guy. A little bit of jealousy is cute, but only after she starts showing signs of liking you back. [Read: How to win a girl’s heart even if there’s another guy that likes her]
#8 Don’t get clingy. Always give a girl her space, especially when you’re trying to woo her. Don’t keep bumping into her intentionally, avoid constantly staring at her each time she’s talking to some other guy, and stop calling her every night. Give her some space and give her the chance to miss you and realize how bored she is without having you around. [Confession: I’m a guy who’s too clingy and needy!]
#9 The dependable guy. Help her around when she needs help. Be the guy she can depend on to get her out of trouble. Girls love it when a guy they’re with has a protective streak. If she feels safe with you, or believes you’re a guy who can handle any tough situation, you’re already in her good books.
#10 Flirt friendly and naughty. She’d have a harder time flirting with you if there are other guys around, so try to get some alone time with her when you get the opportunity. If you want to take it slow because you’re uncertain about her feelings for you, start by flirting as a friend. [Read: How to flirt with a girl and still behave just like a friend]
And once you’re past the friendly flirting, take it to the next level. The best way to flirt with a girl and make her shed her inhibitions is by flirting while texting or while talking over the phone. [Read: How to get a girl to start flirting with you while texting her]
Try to call her up late in the evenings or sometime at night when she’s in bed, lower your tone and speak softly, and before you know it, both of you would be flirting naughty in less than a week as long as you ask the right questions! [Read: 20 naughty text messages to start a sexy conversation]
#11 Touch her. The power of touch is something most guys overlook while trying to make a girl fall in love with them. While talking to her, look for an excuse to touch her now and then. You could place your hand on her lower back while crossing the street, or touch her earlobe while admiring her earring, or even linger the hug for just a moment longer than necessary while saying goodbye. [Read: 8 ways to touch a girl casually and make her horny!]
#12 Don’t tell her you love her. This is a big mistake, at least if you say it before she shows signs of liking you. Always leave her wondering what’s on your mind even if you’re flirting with her. The curiosity will make her want you already. Go out on a date or two before you even think of telling her that you like her.
#13 Give her a gift. But make sure the gift is something small or insignificant that it doesn’t even feel like a gift. You could give her a pen, or a little showpiece or a little something you think she’ll like.
Every time she sees it, it would remind her of you, and yet, because you haven’t told her you like her already, it’ll make her wonder what your intentions are, and that’ll make her fall for you, slowly and steadily even before she realizes it herself! [Read: 50 really sweet and cute things to say to a girl]
#14 Don’t give her all the control. Meet her often and talk to her over the phone often. But every now and then, back off for a day or two and wait for her to call you or ask you out on a date. By making her take the effort now and then, you’d be forcing her to woo you and try to get your attention! And that would only make her fall harder for you.
#15 Make her miss you. This is a short phase you need to make her go through for a few days so she can realize just how much she likes you once you’re past the other steps. After both of you have become really close to each other, make her miss you now and then.
When you’re having an interesting conversation with her, tell her you have to go and hang up just when the conversation starts to get interesting. It’s the easiest way to help her realize how much she needs you in her life! [Read: 10 ways to make a girl want you and think of you sexually]
#16 Don’t always be available. If you want to make a girl fall in love with you, be there for her. But if you feel like she’s using you at any point of time, back off and tell her you’re busy. If you avoid backing off now and then when you’re busy or when you feel like she’s using you for something, you’ll end up becoming her doormat and her man friday. And remember this, a girl would never want to date a guy who behaves like her slave.
#17 But don’t be an asshole. Being unavailable now and then while wooing a girl is a great way to let her see that you’re not always available at her beck and call. But that doesn’t mean you have to behave like a total ass. Be charming and courteous around her, and never treat her badly or disrespectfully. [Read: The art of chivalry while wooing a girl]
#18 Treat her like a girlfriend. Even before you ask her out or tell the girl that you love her, start behaving like a boyfriend. Be protective of her when you’re around, take care of her needs, plan dates together and try to catch up with each other often. And even before she realizes it, both of you would be dating. And she would be madly in love with you already! [Read: The 10 important traits that make a guy a great boyfriend]